The Truth About Grief: Why Most People Feel Like They're Doing It Wrong
Grief doesn’t follow rules.
It doesn’t arrive politely or leave on schedule.
And yet, so many people feel like they’re failing at it.
Too much. Too little. Too emotional. Too numb. Not “moving on” fast enough. Not “letting go.”
Here’s the truth: you can’t do grief wrong.
But you can be made to feel like you are—especially when the support around you is rushed, missing, or built on outdated ideas.
That’s why we created a grief support course that’s different. One that gives people the tools to show up for others, without needing to be a therapist.
What Grief Really Looks Like
Grief isn’t always tears and black clothes.
Sometimes, it’s:
Cancelling plans without knowing why
Snapping at people you love
Feeling nothing and wondering if that makes you heartless
Laughing when you think you should be crying
Forgetting things, zoning out, feeling tired all the time
None of these mean you’re broken.
They mean you’re grieving.
But too often, we don't know how to support someone grieving—so we say nothing, or the wrong thing. And people end up feeling even more alone.
The Problem with “Get Over It” Culture
We live in a world that wants neat endings.
But grief is messy. And long. And different for everyone.
Instead of holding space, people often try to fix it.
You’ve probably heard:
“At least they lived a good life.”
“You’ve got to stay strong.”
“It’s time to move on.”
This is where the right kind of support makes all the difference. And where grief coaching comes in.
What Is Grief Coaching—and Who Is It For?
Grief coaching isn’t therapy. It’s not about analysing or diagnosing.
It’s about meeting someone where they are, listening without judgement, and gently helping them move forward in a way that feels right for them.
Whether you're:
A parent supporting a bereaved child
A teacher or youth worker
A carer in a residential setting
Or someone who has been through loss yourself...
You don’t need to be a counsellor. But you do need the right tools.
That’s why we offer accessible, non-clinical grief support training through The STILL Method.
Training to Support Grieving People—Without a Therapy Degree
People often ask:
“Can I really do this if I’m not a therapist?”
The answer is yes—with the right training.
Our grief coach training is designed for people who want to help—but don’t want to step into a clinical role.
You’ll learn:
What grief actually looks like (beyond the stages)
How to help someone through grief without overwhelming them
What to say (and what not to say)
When to support, when to refer
How to hold space for grieving teens and adults
How to run sessions or groups in your setting
And how to do it ethically, safely, and with confidence
This is grief coach training for real life.
Is There a Need for Grief Coaching in the UK?
Absolutely. In the UK, grief is still under-supported—especially in schools, care homes, and workplaces.
Many people want to help, but they feel unsure. They don’t want to “say the wrong thing” or “make it worse.”
Our grief coaching UK programme is built to close that gap.
It’s flexible, fully online, and structured to fit around your existing commitments—whether you’re in education, social care, or making a career shift.
Final Thoughts
There’s no right way to grieve.
But there is a right way to support someone through it.
If you feel called to help others carry their grief—not fix it, not rush it, just hold space for it—you don’t need permission.
You just need the right framework.
Start with the right grief support course.
One that’s structured, trauma-aware, and built for people like you.
